Gratitude and Thankfullness

How Do You Express Your Gratitude?


“If the only prayer you say in your whole life is ‘Thank You’, that would be enough.” Meister Eckhart.

Why does gratitude and thankfulness matter? It is because success in both life and business is about exchanging positive energy.  If you are not experiencing life as a pleasure or your business is not flowing, take a look at how you are exchanging energy doing the day. There are tell-tale signs that can be seen and felt as you will see.

The manner in which you reflect or deflect gratitude announces to the world your personal comfort with who you are and how you see yourself.  I have learned this in my own life as I have learned to navigate my sense of worthiness. The most obvious way to notice this dynamic in action is to consider this scenario. You are complimented on something you are wearing. Possible replies are:

“This old thing, I’ve had it for years,” (Deflecting)

“Do you really like it? It’s not my favorite color.” (Deflecting)

“I wish it were just a bit shorter or bigger or another color. But thank you anyway.” (Deflecting)

“Thank you for noticing. I feel good in it.” “I also love what you are wearing.” (Reflecting)

The first three replies deflect and actually make the complimenting party wrong in their opinion. They offer no graciousness and thankfulness for being noticed because those who use deflecting statements do not want to be noticed or complimented. In the reflecting statement, the complimenting party is thanked and reciprocated creating a back and forth exchange of energy.

This dynamic also works in business exchanges. Note how you reflect or deflect when someone asks about or compliments your business, your logo, your marketing materials etc.  Also take note of how you feel as you walk away from a business contact. Do you feel deflated or did you exchange enough good energy to leave a favorable impression?

I wrote three chapters on this dynamic in my book, Choose Again because the proper expression of gratitude and thankfulness are hallmarks in creating the life you want. Be sure to check out Confidence- The Dealmaker, No Apologies Necessary and Gratitude and Service. To your reading pleasure!

What did you find when you looked at how you handle gratitude and thankfulness in your life?

Gratitude is an expression I use for unexpected graciousness.  It is the compliment, the opened door, the sweeping bow, the lunch that I did not expect, the flowers, the cards, the surprising smiles from others that create a flow of pleasant emotion.  Gratitude is closely tied to the word, grace’. Grace is often defined as unmerited favor. In other words, you have not earned the act or emotion that you are enjoying.

Life Choices

How Do You Make the Right Choices in Life?


Right Choices

“When something bad happens, you have three choices, you can let it define you, destroy you or let it strengthen you.” Unknown.

Choices are our mechanism for moving life forward, staying in place or regressing into yesterday. Our life outcomes are always determined by our choices. Positive life choices create positive consequences. In Christianity, the direction of mankind begins with choices made by Adam and Eve.  Do they follow the one rule they have been given or follow their own curiosity? We all know the answer. They follow their curiosity. Choosing a life that matters requires making choices in an informed manner.

Adam and Eve had no idea that their choice would result in life-altering circumstances in the Eden story. And often, we too, act as if our life choices have no immediate or long term consequences.  However, as we live and learn in our own lives, we are often painfully and sometimes joyfully aware of the consequences of our choices.

The questions I am often asked are, ‘How does one choose positive life choices?’ ‘How does one evaluate the choices (especially the major choices) that we are confronted with daily?’  Following are my answers for my own life. I use the questions that guide journalists in creating a holistic picture by asking:

Who is guiding this life choice in substance and spirit?– Ask whose voice you are following in making the decision. Is it a parent, a teacher, a bully, a trusted friend, or your own voice guiding the decision? We are all influenced by our culture and others. Are they cheerleaders or critics? Stopping to identify the voice and source of information is critical to moving forward.

 What am I being asked to do? – Ask what am I really being asked to do? Do I want the outcome to be a part of my life? Will it be a positive life outcome?

When will the outcome impact my life? – Ask when I need to reply or make the first move. Are there other elements to consider?

Where will I end up?– Ask where can this decision take me? Is it backwards, forward or will I remain in place?

How will I get to the positive life outcome– Ask how will I get to the place that the decision will take me? Again, askis it a place I want to be?

By following this train of thought, you can evaluate life choices in a manner to leads to informed success. You can also eliminate and become aware more quickly of the life choices that will not serve your goal of choosing a life that matters. Do you have a different way of evaluating life choices? Please share, I would love to hear from you.


Life Choices

The 15 Best Quotes About Life Choices


Life Choices

“A fine quotation is a diamond in the hand of a man of wit and a pebble in the hand of a fool.” –  Joseph Roux.

Life choices are often relegated to the background of our thinking when we make everyday decisions. We tend to make day-to-day decisions without regard for long-term and sometimes short-term consideration for how the decisions will impact our lives. All choices matter. All choices are life choices.

Although we like to believe that life choices are simply lifestyle options, there is more to it than that. With every waking decision, a paradigm called life emerges. Take a look around at your life results and your life choices are waving at you.

I have gathered a few of the quotes that guide me back to the path of choosing deliberately and positively as I plan my life and its outcomes.

Here are 15 of my favorite life-altering choices:

“Falling Down is an Accident, Staying down is a choice” Unknown

“Say Yes to New Adventures.” Unknown

“Remember you can’t reach what’s in front of you until you let go of what is behind you.” Unknown

“I’m not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become.”AgapiStassimopoulos

“People inspire you or they drain you. Pick them wisely.” Hans F. Hansen

“One day or day one. You decide.” Unknown

“Take the risk or lose the chance.”Unknown

“When something bad happens, you have three choices, you can let it either define you, destroy you or let it strengthen you.” Unknown

Either you run the day or the day runs you.” Jim Rohn

“If it doesn’t challenge you, it doesn’t change you.” Unknown

“The only limits in life are the ones you make.” Unknown

“Failure is a bruise not a tattoo.” John Sinclair

“If you keep telling the same sad story, you will keep living the same sad life.” Jean Houston

“To heal a wound, you need to stop touching it.” Unknown

“It’s okay to be scared, it means you are about to do something really, really brave.” Anonymous

Read through the list a few times. Choose the ones that resonate on a soul or heart level with where you are now in your life. Choose to act on those at once. Keep the list and go over it again in a month and new choices should emerge as your life has inevitably changed. I would love to know if you have different life choice mantras or which quotes caught you by surprise.